tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post7565342007763811686..comments2023-09-21T04:25:08.146-05:00Comments on Our Journey to Bailey & Beyond: I Have To Re-live ItDanaehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10584568430169543869noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-51620461183743574352012-03-09T15:21:19.979-06:002012-03-09T15:21:19.979-06:00Oh Danae, I am so sorry. This is completely outrag...Oh Danae, I am so sorry. This is completely outrageous! No, you are not acting childish, your "family" is. This is just too much and nothing any grieving parent should have to deal with. Lots of love and prayers to you during this hard time. I am just so very sorry that you are going through this, it is heartbreaking.Rhiannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11722893069322386523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-42669933368394094512012-02-17T15:24:36.677-06:002012-02-17T15:24:36.677-06:00My dear sweet Danae, I feel so heartbroken for you...My dear sweet Danae, I feel so heartbroken for you and Adam. As for the choice put before you, as hard as it is to make, you will do it with grace and strength only parents can achieve. If I may spend my two cents here, as for the "other side" of the family, I cannot speak for them all, but I personally would be HONORED if you allowed my Daddy to help watch over Miss Bailey. I know how much he loved his "kiddos" in life, and cannot imagine it would be any less after he has passed. <br />And, since I cannot speak for them all, I will say this OUT LOUD and in public, anytime I am asked...<br />If you and Adam choose to allow your Papaw the honor of Bailey's presence, I will personally STOMP any one of my siblings that say otherwise. You have my word. Your Mamaw made the offer, and she didn't do it out of pity. She is a strong woman, with a large heart and sound mind. It was done with LOVE, and if accepted, I will never let anyone try to reverse it. Honest Injun, swear on my last breath. <br />Love you all, Aunt LeanaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-63343502934028047902012-02-15T18:18:42.817-06:002012-02-15T18:18:42.817-06:00This is completely outrageous. I am so angry and ...This is completely outrageous. I am so angry and upset for you. I would cut ties, too. No hesitation about it. OMG - I AM SO ANGRY!!!!!<br /><br />I used to work in a cemetery (weird, huh?) and I arranged the paperwork necessary to have remains disinterred and reinterred many times. I know a bit about the logistics involved. <br /><br />If it would make you feel better, you can arrange to have another service at her new graveside as she is re-buried. That's pretty commonplace, and you should be able to arrange it with the cemetery. I'm not sure if this will help you feel better about the situation at all - but I wanted to throw it out there in case it does.<br /><br />Danae, I am so so sorry. This should NEVER have happened. I can't imagine the gall of a family member insisting on not letting her resting place be marked. <br /><br />((Hugs))Violet1122https://www.blogger.com/profile/05470143683967710014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-4479070319341959262012-02-14T19:25:42.163-06:002012-02-14T19:25:42.163-06:00Hey cousin, you know my feelings on this matter. ...Hey cousin, you know my feelings on this matter. Idaho says they are in your corner too. We love you. You know who your family is sweety. Be strong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-12195058142676941542012-02-14T09:31:38.621-06:002012-02-14T09:31:38.621-06:00That is terrible! I'm so sorry you have to dea...That is terrible! I'm so sorry you have to deal with these insensitive "Family" members. How awful. You were probably nicer than I would have been. I can't believe they had the nerve to even suggest such a thing. I would cut ties too if they are unwilling to get over their own issues and see the pain this has caused you! (And let you keep her where she is!)<br /><br />Sending T&P your way.Lia Larsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06235619721877436049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-25945412156036451072012-02-13T20:10:28.598-06:002012-02-13T20:10:28.598-06:00My heart breaks 4 u! You have every right to be hu...My heart breaks 4 u! You have every right to be hurt and angry. My thoughts an prayers are with y'all! I'm so sorry that u have to go thru all that pain all over again. Ur uncle will reap what he sews!Lacey Knappnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-88368963399776220552012-02-13T16:29:22.919-06:002012-02-13T16:29:22.919-06:00Hi! I'm a new reader/follower. I am also a BLM...Hi! I'm a new reader/follower. I am also a BLM to a little girl and I would be horrified if what you are going though would have happened to me!! You are doing right by cutting off all ties. If they can't stick by you at the worst moment of your life then they will never be able to. <br /><br />Prayers for you during this time!<br /><br />xoxoxHillaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10944360286843076465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-16922497766494387742012-02-13T15:04:04.535-06:002012-02-13T15:04:04.535-06:00First of all, you are not overreacting or acting c...First of all, you are not overreacting or acting childish AT ALL! In fact, I'm impressed by how you handled it. I'm sure I would've gone crazy on your uncle. I just can't even believe it. Any of it. It's like a bad joke. A horribly bad joke. Why would anyone on this earth think that burying a child in a specific location would be temporary?! Or burying anyone for that matter, but especially a child. Really? I'm pretty sure when you go through a funeral and burial, it's pretty set in stone as to where they will be laid to rest. It just amazes me. I'm so very sorry you and Adam have to deal with this. My heart breaks for you. Lots of love and praying for incredible peace in the days to come as you find a new resting place for your sweet baby girl.Priscillahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14529738306950752537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-56631778124784164862012-02-13T12:23:05.360-06:002012-02-13T12:23:05.360-06:00I don't think you are overreacting or are acti...I don't think you are overreacting or are acting childish at all. You sound hurt and angry. The whole situation is dumbfounding! Why would a burial site ever be temporary? That makes no sense at all. That is supposed to be Bailey's resting place, a place that is protected and honored. Especially by family!!! I would be so upset too, Danae. You are being a protective and loving mother to Bailey. No parent should have to experience what you and Adam have. I will be sending you both strength and support over the next few weeks as you find Bailey her new burial site. I am just so so sorry. xoxoAllisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04601800346553703806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-50515584627692733472012-02-13T12:02:15.093-06:002012-02-13T12:02:15.093-06:00Oh I'm so sorry that you have to go through th...Oh I'm so sorry that you have to go through this it's not fair. I'll be praying for you and Adam both.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12005972668308445263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-54328154168390066312012-02-13T06:16:37.441-06:002012-02-13T06:16:37.441-06:00I'm so sorry to hear about this Danae. You an...I'm so sorry to hear about this Danae. You and Adam should not have to be making these types of decisions nor should you have to relive this now. Your reaction is common and warranted. I wish you peace as you make this choice and comfort for future activities that will involve this side of your family. I pray that they will see how much this hurt and understand that things will be different now. Please let me know if you need anything at all. KKaysha Yatesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-5784709098998810722012-02-13T04:40:38.100-06:002012-02-13T04:40:38.100-06:00WHY in the world would they POSSIBLY think it was ...WHY in the world would they POSSIBLY think it was only temporary? Who would do that? I am stunned, and so, so sorry you're having to go through this. Every single part of this is unfair and ridiculous.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13450929181331922606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-64269671603332289072012-02-12T22:50:53.172-06:002012-02-12T22:50:53.172-06:00Oh my goodness. No, you did NOT overreact. That is...Oh my goodness. No, you did NOT overreact. That is so hurtful and insensitive of your uncle especially. Facebook? Really?? I am horrified FOR you. I am so sorry you got that kind of treatment from your own family. I am also so sorry you have to move Bailey's plot and all the pain that must entail. Hugs to you.LookItsJessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15098271882501686853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-62524716132797906992012-02-12T22:40:37.137-06:002012-02-12T22:40:37.137-06:00I would have had the same reaction
:(. I don'...I would have had the same reaction <br />:(. I don't think that you over reacted at all! That was horrible of them, especially your uncle. He should have called you, but to air it out on Facebook and have the nerve to tell you to call him? Ridiculous! Why didn't they offer one of those other plots that they are now offering to begin with? I don't understand how the city could say that it is okay one minute and not the next either. I'm sorry that this is happening to you. Just know that I'm thinking of you and sending lots of hugs!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17632097577269881379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-82922463372949011012012-02-12T22:10:00.957-06:002012-02-12T22:10:00.957-06:00I would be FURIOUS if one, they actually thought i...I would be FURIOUS if one, they actually thought it was "a temporary burial" (because has there ever been a temporary burial? Ever?) and two, if the city gave permission then said no, and three, that my family would say something about it on Facebook. That is all so uncalled for! I'm sorry :(Amiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00929149694948104094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-70735913159911478422012-02-12T22:10:00.455-06:002012-02-12T22:10:00.455-06:00I would be FURIOUS if one, they actually thought i...I would be FURIOUS if one, they actually thought it was "a temporary burial" (because has there ever been a temporary burial? Ever?) and two, if the city gave permission then said no, and three, that my family would say something about it on Facebook. That is all so uncalled for! I'm sorry :(Amiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00929149694948104094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7426369653620023276.post-10269237019694554922012-02-12T21:24:16.213-06:002012-02-12T21:24:16.213-06:00Oh, honey! I do not think you over-reacted. I th...Oh, honey! I do not think you over-reacted. I think you have every right to be upset and I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through. I'm thinking about you and I hope you and Adam can make this decision as painlessly as possible (although I know it will be nowhere near painless). *hugs*Tosha Lackeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05606328351790344541noreply@blogger.com