Sunday, August 29, 2010

Bailey's Day

Friday, August 27th was what should have been Bailey's due date.  In remembrance of the beautiful little girl who was taken far too soon from us, we spent the day doing things for her. 

We started off our day by Adam giving Desmond a bath since he was going with us...he wasn't happy about it.

Before we left the house, we each ate one of the pink cupcakes Adam brought home, especially for that day.  They were very delicious!  I was so surprised when I got home on Thursday night and saw these.  He bought 6 of them, and had them made especially for Bailey's day.  By Saturday afternoon, they were all
gone.


We went to Bailey's resting place and put out new flowers.  Adam wanted to put out pink and purple ones, so we found these at Hobby Lobby.  I wanted to added the pink and purple butterflies.  The pink flowers in middle are the ones we put out on Memorial Day.  They still looked nice, so we just moved them to the middle.  We pulled a few weeds that were growing rather unruly on her grave.  The moment that made us laugh while we were there...Desmond decided he needed to go poop, then Adam, not paying attention, stepped in it.  So, we had to make a detour and stop at my parent's house so he could wash his shoe.


We went to Sulphur to the Chickasaw Recreational Park.  It's been years since either one of us went there.  Adam thought it would be nice to go, because it would have been a place we would have taken Bailey.  We would have taken her in her stroller, walked the trails and packed a picnic lunch.  So, we did just that...the one that was missing was her. 

We started out at the Nature Center. Adam went inside to get a list of the trails. Desmond greeted everyone who came out, and got lovings from just about everyone.



 
Adam is severely allergic to Poison Ivy. I am allergic to it too, but (knock on wood) I haven't had it in the 11 years we have been together. So, when we saw this sign, Adam made me take a picture of it. At the same time, in my head, I wondered if Poison Ivy would have been something we would have to worry about with Bailey. Would she have been allergic to it just as bad as her Daddy?
 

Potty break time...yes, I know you are wondering why I have a picture of the Women's bathroom door. I have an irrational fear of porta-potties and holes in the ground. And I almost did NOT go into this bathroom because I was terrified of what I would find when I got in there. Fortunately, it was a regular bathroom.


I took lots and lots of pictures of the scenery.


This beautiful butterfly was on this bush when we drove by it the first time. The bush is right by a bridge that has water that flows over it. I tried to take a picture, but someone pulled up behind us. When we went back later, this butterfly was still there, so I was able to get a picture. The blues on it's wings were beautiful, and it was a pretty good size butterfly. When we drove by this spot a third time (all hours apart), the butterfly was still there. I like to think of it as a little sign from our little butterfly.


We walked the trails.  Desmond was rather amusing on the walk...we so have a "city-dog".  He would walk really fast if he wasn't in the shade, then would slow down in the shade.  If the shade moved from the left side of the path to the right, he went right along with it.  And when he got leaves stuck in his fur, he would just lay down and roll over on his back until someone got them out.  Desmond got tired and we ended up having to turn around and go back to the car while we were on one trail. 


We stopped for a couple of photo-ops ourselves...


After we left the park, we went and picked up my niece.  We were going to go eat that evening, and Adam and I were headed to my parents, so we thought it would be nice to take Desiree over there with us.  On the way over there, she tried to slip her arm out of her car seat strap.  When I told her "no ma'am" I got the evil eye...This is so a look that my sister used to give when she was a baby.  To see Desiree give it at 15 months made me laugh.  I sure hope Bailey wouldn't have had her Aunt Sarah's attitude...


Desiree munched on some watermelon with Grandma...this child has a big mouth for someone so small!


And then took a nap on the way to go eat...


The final thing we had planned to do on Bailey's day was to go home and light a candle.  We decided to do it 2 different ways.  The one solitaire candle, we left burning all night long. 


Overall, we had a "good" day.  Everything we did, we thought of Bailey.  Even though she wasn't here with us, it was still her day.

9 comments:

Julie said...

what a beautiful way to spend her day and honor her. i'm just so sorry she wasn't there with you, but i'm glad it was a nice day.

Dana said...

What a beautiful way to spend Bailey's due date. I imagined her with your throughout your post and imagined you looking back in the car and seeing Bailey in a car seat next to Desiree (who is adorable, by the way).

I'm glad you were able to have such a nice day together and I'm sure that butterfly was a sign from Bailey. It's amazing how long it stayed in the same place :)

I love the candles.

Angela said...

I love how you spent Bailey's due date. The butterfly is a sweet reminder that she is always with you. I know this has been a hard week for you. I've been thinking about you a lot.

Elaine said...

I am so glad you enjoyed your day. Even though Bailey was not there physically she was with you. The butterfly was a good sign of that. You have such a sweet dog! I love the angry bath photo. We also lit a candle for Bailey. I will send you a picture of it once I upload it. Was thinking about you lots on Friday and love the cupcake idea. Blaine's edd is coming up in September and I'm hoping to get a little cake or cupcakes too.

xoxo

Rhiannon said...

What a nice way to spend your day honoring your little Bailey. I know she was looking down on her Mommy and Daddy and smiling. :)

Jill said...

What a beautiful way to spend the day!

Kristin said...

Beautiful, Danae. xoxo

Drew's Parents said...

Bailey's day was just beautiful. You and Adam are such wonderful parents to your sweet girl. I loved the story about the butterfly...I imagine that it was indeed from Bailey. <3 I think she must have been smiling about the special day her mommy and daddy had in her memory. I bet she also giggled at Desmond and her adorable cousin too! My heart has been with you this weekend!xoxo

Jennifer said...

What a wonderful Bailey day. Glad you and your husband got to spend it together. Like the other mamas' said on her, I'm sure Bailey was watching over you and smiling. ((hugs))